I will admit that I have forgotten a bit about the just engaged rush. Of course, Rob and I meet plenty of couples that are engaged and looking for a wedding photographer, but we have been married for five years now. It honestly doesn’t feel that long at all. I have forgotten how exciting it is to look through the bridal magazines, making copious notes of this centerpiece, that dress, the icing on the cake, etc.
But on Friday, my sister in law got engaged. Congrats, Amanda! She is a flurry of activity, ready to get everything planned for next spring, or this fall. 😉 She is so excited that it is contagious. I find myself getting excited about going to her wedding dress appointments, looking at flowers, perhaps even testing some cake. I think you all know how I feel about cake.
I remember shopping for my own wedding dress. We went to several different bridal salons, and I tried on so many gowns that one began to look like another. Until I found THE one. It was cream, with a little beading under the bust and poet sleeves. I was so in love. I ordered the dress, paid the deposit and left the salon feeling oh so excited. But then, I got a call the next day saying that the designer was no longer cutting that dress. Oh the horror. I will admit that I found something similar, but it wasn’t the one. Everyone says I still looked gorgeous, and the dress was me.
You know what? The wedding is not about the dress. I promise you, it’s not. It was about sharing the love that Rob and I felt for one another. I remember how handsome Rob looked in his tux, the way our niece and the flower girl were chasing each other around us during the ceremony and laughing about it.
Nothing is perfect. This is a fact of life. It is the way that we overcome those imperfections that bring out our character. I like to think that our wedding was perfect. It was also a blur. Looking back on the images from our wedding brings back all those memories. It doesn’t matter that the dress wasn’t the one that I wanted to begin with. It only matters that I had one of the most memorable days of my life in that dress, and that makes it the one.
I’ve spent the better part of my night looking at wedding dresses and bridesmaid dresses with Amanda tonight. My head is a kaleidoscope of colors, shapes and designs. No wonder brides are so stressed out, right? I know Amanda has a style in mind, as do most brides when looking for a dress, but don’t be afraid to try something completely different. You may be surprised when you look in the mirror. It may not be the one that you end up wearing, but if you are looking for an A-line dress and see a ball gown that says “try me”, do it for giggles. I did, and felt like a princess, even though I knew that dress would not be the one, it was fun to try on. It’s your wedding day. No one else’s and you should have fun with every step.